“If you fuel anger with righteousness, you will get hate."| Dr Friedemann
Anger will come and go, but it is our job not to let it take our power when it does arise.
Instead, we should see it as a message from our subconscious that something is out of balance in our world and needs our time and attention.
Recently, I had an angry outburst of my own. It was early in the morning and I was trying to bring my horses to the blacksmith, who was waiting at the other side of our property.
Since the horses didn’t appreciate being taken away from their breakfast, they were not being overly cooperative (getting their nails done is apparently not a top priority for them). The blacksmith was impatiently sitting at the gate, honking his horn several times.
At some point, I shouted in his direction to stop honking (and I may have used some four-letter words). It wasn't pretty, and I am not proud of my reaction.
𝗛𝗼𝘄𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿, 𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝘆𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳, 𝗜 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸 𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗵𝘆 𝗱𝗶𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻? 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗺𝘆 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗜 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗯𝗮𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗿 at the blacksmith who is a delightful man honking the horn?
I realized that I had stretched myself past my limits. I had not been making enough time for self-care and wasn't sticking to my boundaries of not taking on too much.
𝗥𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝗥𝗘𝗔𝗖𝗧𝗜𝗡𝗚, 𝘄𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗥𝗘𝗙𝗟𝗘𝗖𝗧 - Anger may seem to come out of nowhere, but if we look deep enough, we will see the reason and learn the lessons it is trying to teach us.
The reality is…
If you fuel anger with righteousness, you will get hate.
If you fuel anger with self-compassion, you will get forgiveness.
If you fuel anger with love, you will get passion.
If you fuel anger with wisdom, you will get change.
Join me on this week’s episode of Get Real and learn how to notice where in your life you are stretched too thin and together let’s learn how to let go and just be.