Getting a Handle on Our Anger


"If you fuel anger with righteousness, you will get hate."| Dr Friedemann

Anger will come and go, but it is our job not to let it take our power when it does arise.

Instead, we should see it as a message from our subconscious that something is out of balance in our world and needs our time and attention.

Recently, I had an angry outburst of my own. It was early in the morning and I was trying to bring my horses to the blacksmith, who was waiting at the other side of our property.

Since the horses didn't appreciate being taken away from their breakfast, they were not being overly cooperative (getting their nails done is apparently not a top priority for them). The blacksmith was impatiently sitting at the gate, honking his horn several times.

At some point, I shouted in his direction to stop honking (and I may have used some four-letter words). It wasn't pretty, and I am not proud of my reaction.

๐—›๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ, ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜๐—ผ ๐—บ๐˜†๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ, ๐—œ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—น๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—ธ ๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ต๐˜† ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ป? ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—บ๐˜† ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—œ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ฏ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—œ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฟ at the blacksmith who is a delightful man honking the horn?

I realized that I had stretched myself past my limits. I had not been making enough time for self-care and wasn't sticking to my boundaries of not taking on too much.


๐—ฅ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ฅ๐—˜๐—”๐—–๐—ง๐—œ๐—ก๐—š, ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฅ๐—˜๐—™๐—Ÿ๐—˜๐—–๐—ง - Anger may seem to come out of nowhere, but if we look deep enough, we will see the reason and learn the lessons it is trying to teach us.


The reality is…

If you fuel anger with righteousness, you will get hate.ย 

If you fuel anger with self-compassion, you will get forgiveness.ย ย 

If you fuel anger with love, you will get passion.ย ย 

If you fuel anger with wisdom, you will get change.

Join me on this week's episode of Get Real and learn how to notice where in your life you are stretched too thin and together let's learn how to let go and just be.